Stop Dimming Your Light, Start Choosing Your Life

If you’re sick of faking alignment and calling it strategy, this week’s blog is for you. If you’ve ever found yourself ranting about what you don’t want but can’t quite articulate what you do, congratulations—you’re normal. And, well… stuck.

This week we’re diving into three truths that will either piss you off or set you free. Ideally both. Because we’re not here for surface-level affirmations. We’re here to break cycles, not repeat them.

1. If You Can’t Name What You Want, You’re Not Getting It

You can make a vision board, journal until your pen runs dry, and chant mantras with a lavender candle—none of it works if you’re still focused on what you don’t want.

Most people can describe every single thing that’s broken in their life: bad job, dead-end relationship, exhaustion that hits like clockwork. But ask them what they do want? Crickets. Your brain needs direction. If you’re only feeding it complaints, it can’t build a solution.

"You’ve told me what you don’t like. Now tell me what would actually make you happy."

Start there. (And no, "not being stressed" isn’t an answer. Try again.)

People with clear goals are more likely to succeed because clarity reduces overwhelm and unlocks motivation. That means your to-do list isn’t the problem—your foggy focus is.

2. You Are Always a Role Model. Question Is, For What?

Someone is watching you—kid, partner, sibling, team member—and learning what "success" looks like from how you live.

So let’s be honest. Are you modeling:

• Chronic burnout and pretending it’s passion?
• Hustle culture dressed up as leadership?
• Perfectionism with a smile filter?

Or are you showing that joy, fulfillment, and real connection are possible without self-abandonment?

"I’m the most successful I’ve ever been because I’m the happiest I’ve ever been."

Let that sink in. Then decide if your daily life actually reflects what you say you value. If not, it’s time for a pivot—not another productivity app.

3. Some People Can’t Handle Your Light—Dim It Anyway?

Here’s the catch with growth: it glows. And that glow makes people uncomfortable—especially the ones invested in the old, dimmer version of you.

"You’re a lighthouse. Some people will sail toward you. Some will steer away. Both responses are information."

When you start living in integrity with what feels good, people who thrive on your self-sacrifice will start squirming. Let them. Your job isn’t to shrink so others can stay unbothered. Your job is to honor the new frequency you’re stepping into.

It’s called self-preservation. And it’s backed by research. Setting boundaries is essential for high performers because it protects not just your energy—but your identity.

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